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Will Power (what is that?)

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I realized today that I don’t have a theme or journey or anything day to day type blog. I just write or type when I feel compelled or lead to.

After thinking about it and going back to read my older posts, I can see a maturity growing. So I think that this blog is diagramming my writing and Christian maturity.

See now, as all stories go, well the ones with happy endings, the one’s who know that they have the happy ending, they have to have some bad bits too. If your whole life is cake and then you can actually eat the cake without getting fat, well you have no idea how lucky you are and most likely take it so far for granted that it would make other people sick.

On the other hand when you walk through the ruff and fire and come out still in one piece you can truly appreciate the good and happy ending.

Now I am not saying that being saved later in life makes you more of a christian, I am just saying when you live half your life really truly believing that you will rot in a wooden casket six feet under ground getting chewed through by bugs. Not a pretty picture. But when you can wake up one day and say no that won’t be me. Maybe my human body but not me, the part that really makes me me. That part is not my skin, my weight, my eye color, my crooked teeth. My soul is me. The never ending me. The last forever live in heaven me. So thankful for that.

So even though we should take care of ourselves, our bodies are not the most important. When we take care of our souls, I truly believe the rest can follow, if we so desire. The best quote I’ve heard was “not to rely on self will- power but to rely on God’s power.” That is from the Daniel Plan book, haven’t read the whole thing, but I think that may just be the best line in it. Because it is the truth, by ourselves nothing is possible, but with God anything is possible. Yes, thank you for that truth.

I am praying AND begging God to take the power, oh how do I wish He would just take my will away and give me a map, how many heartaches and mistakes could I of avoided if He worked that way. But He doesn’t, but He will guide us, if we take the time to ask Him.

 

A girl’s Girl Guide

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A girl’s Girl Guide…

Be confident. Confidence is attractive.

Be respectful. Have respect for yourself and others.

Take life serious. Do not take yourself too serious. Know that what you do today can affect tomorrow, no matter how small.

Please have a sense of humor. Laugh at yourself not at others. Laugh with people not at them. Girls do not tell dirty jokes.

Set goals, and know that they are achievable. If you do not think they are attainable then why would you bother? If you do not believe in yourself no one else will.

Learn from your mistakes. Yes, you will make mistakes. Take them for what they are life lessons. Some will be big and some will be small, but learn from them and move on. Try not to dwell on them, and learn so they do not have to be repeated. You have to own them so they do not own you, and if you hurt someone then you need to apologize.

Keep a journal. Everyone should, it will be entertaining one day. It will help you see growth in yourself, or it will let you see if you are too concerned about one thing or person.

Have true friends. To have a few true friends is better than to have many fake ones. Be a leader not be a follower. Have real life friendships. Find friends that you want to be like. You are only as good as the company you keep, and guilty by association is a real thing.

Never let yourself be attracted to jerks, they might be funny when they are being jerky to others, but your day will come when he is a jerk to you.

Stay away from bad boys, they may look mysterious and in need of saving, wake up that’s not your job. Bad boys are bad news, they like a good girl until they don’t, then you are boring. Never even think of trying to be bad with them, they will leave you for the next “good” girl.

Do not date older guys until you are older. They may look like they have their life together but most are still immature and if they happen to be mature than you will be the immature one in the relationship. My advice is be at least 25 to date five or more years older.

Be yourself and you will only attract those who like you for you!

Most importantly the last point, have a relationship with God. If you do not have a full-fledged relationship already you should get one. If you are skeptical, keep God in your mind. He will show you He is there if you have an open mind.

 

Thank you for letting me share I hope this is helpful. 

This is how I feel!

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I like this blog and I love that I can express my feelings and thoughts to the “sphere” as I call the internet. What I really like that I can have a honest opinion. I know that one day I may end up with some actual comments and some of those comments may not agree with me on some of my opinions but never the less I get to have my own opinions and express them. My problem has never been conflict in fact I thrive on it, I love to have to prove my point or in a few cases learn that I am wrong.

However in my real life I am quickly beginning to lose any sense of genuine feelings. I know some people, that have to hear what they want to hear and they have to be able to say what they want to say. I find this fact infuriating. I have never been one to back down (oh no quiet the opposite), but I am learning something about myself and these others as this situation keeps persisting. I am learning about myself that I am not OK with this sort of relationship, and I am also learning that I am not OK with people who are OK with this type of relationship.

I recently gave up Facebook not the first time but I believe the last time. It was not due to the fact that it is addicting and a time warp ( which it is) it was also not due to the fact that I have to deal with selfies and self-absorbed people. It was due to the fact that I am friends with family members who unlike me get to voice opinions.

I deal with others telling me how they think I should act, talk or approach people and even though it hurts I nod and listen to their points, now you might think since I am trying my best to be supportive and polite that they would return the favor and hear me out. Nooooooooooooo. Absolutely not.

Now I am sure that someone can read into this and see that it is taking a lot of creative writing and a lot of beating around the bush to not say what the matter at hand is. Which goes to show that I am still not sure of the amount of privacy, and honestly it is sad that I am afraid to hurt someone’s feelings even though they are continually hurting mine.

I never pimped out my blog, I never linked it, I never really told anyone. Well my husband knows but he couldn’t find it well unless he went on my computer and went into my favorites. HA! So to my few followers thank you. I only do not share my writings because of these facts, and also this is my “Free therapy”. And even though this suppose to be my safe place I can still not bring myself to say what it is that is bothering me.

I have equated my recent behavior to my new but not so new Christian lifestyle. I am trying to do my best and turn the other cheek.. So some may call me weak, sometimes I feel that is what I have been with this situation, but it is only making me a stronger, think before I speak Christian. Also it letting me know how I honestly stand with those who say they love me.

Self Worth

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I may be mistaken but from this title I would think that “self worth” would be determined by the “self”.  However I know that, that is wrong. With this day and age people are determine to measure their self worth by how many likes or retweets they get, or comments, or how many so called friends they have on their social media pages. Granted that these “friends” they do not have to personally know or to have actually met the “friend”.

With this said this drives me absolutely crazy……   I have few friends and this is probably why. But do I really have to see a picture every time you bathe your “adorbs” dog,  a picture of every time you cut your kids hair,  add a new flower to over compensating yard, or get one thing from your awesomely awesome garden, which is awesome by the way. Maybe I am wrong but I just do not need to post about every teeny tiny accomplishment.

Do not even get me started about “selfies” oh my.  If you have not heard that song, google it. It is so true. Beware I think it may have a few bad words though. Oh my goodness do you have that one or two friends that when you go to your face book feed you have to see five different face shots from them from that day, each and every day.  It is like they need to valuated by the number of likes they get for that picture. Which I will not like them. I may be a bit more humble, but when I look at my photo album or any pictures I have taken, I do not see myself. I find that I like what I am seeing outside of the mirror. I am not ugly or so insecure that I do not want to see a picture of myself, but I am not so self- centered that, I am all I want to see. I would rather look at my handsome husband, or amazing children which I do not plaster pictures of them, maybe I am just selfish because I do not share them with the world. I am just a private person, and I personally know I am blessed, I do not need others to tell me I am. I know one person who was/is always posting about how amazing and awesome her life and her husband are, that it sound to me either she is going to take the highest bidder when she sells them, or that maybe just maybe she is trying to convince herself. I would go with the latter.

Now ask your self a question, are you one of these annoying self centered people? One of these people who has to feel liked by how many likes your get on a witty comment, or to feel pretty by how likes you can get on a selfie, or special because someone you do not even know retweets or shares your article or status.

If you are guilty of this, and are not self centered, but actually determine how much you are worth or how liked you are. Please stop, please look at a real friend, in their physical presence and enjoy your life. If you do not have any friends, then make one, say hello to a actual living breathing person, standing right in front of you. And is this kind of the same thing? With me venting to people I have never really met or never will really know. (But in my defense, my blog is named free therapy).

What really gets to me, are the kids who lock and shut themselves away to play on this technology. But I will save that for a later date.

Now leave comments, tell me I am the only one who thinks like this, or tell me I am not.